12 and Pregnant

*The children in the photo are not necessarily the children in the story.

Being 12 years old and pregnant is probably one of the worst things you could imagine for a young girl.  No more hope. No more future.  No more innocence.  This girl’s opportunities for a successful life were taken away.  Her chances of a completed education are slim.  Her chances of living above the poverty line are no more. The possibility of finding a husband who will accept her baby is not likely.  But unfortunately, being pregnant at 12 is not the deplorable part of this story.  The horrifying part is who the father of the baby is.  

Unbelievably, this story gets worse.  You see, the pregnant girl is one of three daughters that could have been impregnated by their father.  The one who happened to get pregnant is a twin.  The other sister is 11.  So in reality, any of the three could be carrying their father’s baby.  All three were at risk of doing so in the future.  Because all three were being raped by the man who is supposed to be their protecter.

The good news is the three girls were rescued.  The bad news is only two came to Shadow.  The new mother is still in the hospital with her baby/sister.  She will not be joining her sisters at Shadow, but instead will be taken to another home.  This is heartbreaking to say the least, but also necessary.  We pray the sisters will be reunited as some point, but we don’t know when or where.  We also pray that Shadow will be able to accommodate young pregnant teens in the future.  In fact, it’s something we must do.  The need is too great.  The delay too long.

The words “no hope” and “no future” used above, only apply to the physical life of this victim.  There is “a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11) in the spiritual life of this child, if she gives her life to the Lord.  We can only pray she does.  This is why we must pray for the resources to support young girls who find themselves in similar situations.  The calls to accept pregnant teens at Shadow come frequently.  And the answer is always a very painful “no”.  

The dream is there.  The call is there.  The desire is there.  But the resources are not.  A new home must be built.  It will be named Casa Maria (Mary) after another unwed pregnant teen you may have heard of. House grandparents must be found.  They will help these young mothers raise their child, show them how to parent in a Godly manner, and teach them the love and patience of Jesus.  Generations will be altered for the better and futures will be changed forever.  Physically and spiritually.



The Stolen Child

*Picture do not necessarily reflect the child in the story

The new mother struggled to survive after giving birth to her one and only daughter.  After many days in the hospital she was sent home, still unable to walk or take care of herself.  The complications continued as she struggled to make it on her own.  So bad was her health that a “friend” offered to take care of the new baby while she recovered.  This was a mistake that would haunt her the rest of her life.

The mother’s health issues would go on for years.  But regardless of her health, what happened changed the course and the future of the baby’s life forever.  The “friend” grew so fond of the new baby that she never returned her to the mother.  In fact, the decision to keep her is what brought her to us.  Only after the mother decided she was healthy enough, did she want her daughter back.  But by this time it was too late.  The baby and the “friend” had disappeared.

For 12 years the mother has been looking for her baby.  For 12 years she has lived with an emptiness that most of us cannot imagine.  For 12 years the wrong person was raising her child.  And for 12 years the baby grew up with a lie.  The woman who raised her was not the woman who gave her birth.  The woman who she knows as “mama” is a liar and kidnapper.  The life she has known will never be the same.  All because of an opportunistic woman who wanted a baby of her own.

We don’t know why she stole the baby.  All we know is that she did a horrifically selfish thing.  She loves the girl like her own.  In fact, she was caught and exposed while trying to adopt the girl.  In her own twisted way she wants the best for the girl.  But she wants to fulfill her own desires of being a mother first.  Her love for the child is real.  But the love of herself is greater.

Because of one unthinkable act, the girl is now separated from the only mother she has ever known and the mother who gave birth to her.  As the courts try to sort it all out, the girl will stay at Shadow.  The psychological stress on this girl is more than anyone should have to deal with.  The broken trust, the lies, the confusion, the separation are all weighing heavily upon her.  She feels lost, betrayed, and deceived.  But she also feels hope.

Despite all that she is dealing with, she now knows to whom she truly belongs.  She has been introduced to a Father that will never leave her or forsake her.  A Father that will always love her, guide her, and protect her.  He is a Father that does not lie, does not deceive, does not betray.  And even though her case may take years to figure out, she knows her Heavenly Father is in control.  No matter where she ends up or who she ends up living with, she has a Father that will be with her wherever she goes.

From Wild to Mild

The wild child has been tamed.  These are words that nobody expected to hear.  The little boy that ate like an animal, didn’t know how to bathe, and couldn’t show respect, has changed.  The wild child now controls his body, and his temper.  The one who didn’t realize the consequences of his actions now recognizes good and bad behavior.  And it’s all because of two fathers.

The wild child had never known a father, let alone a daddy.  In fact, he had never really known a mother either.  He and his younger brother were left to fend for themselves.  After coming to Shadow of His Wings, the wild child was introduced to two men that have changed his life forever.  One earthly.  One heavenly.  The two have worked together to meet the needs of this little boy.  And the result of their efforts is nothing short of miraculous and supernatural.

The wild child is now the mild child.  He recently expressed his gratitude towards his earthly dad, saying how good of a man he was and how thankful he was to have him as a dad.  He explained how his papí prayed with him, read the bible to him, and taught him about Jesus.  He too loves his Heavenly Father and wants to live for Him.  It’s one of the most drastic changes we’ve seen here and one of the most touching. This recent expression of gratitude was completely unsolicited and exemplifies the miracle in this boy’s life.

You can read more about the wild child and his brother, as they have been written about before.  This writing is a follow-up story.  A progress story.  A success story.  You see, the wild child has vanished.  The boy is still here, but he is different.  His story is a testament to what love and prayer can do in a person’s life.  It’s a testament to what Christ can do in all our lives.  Because weren’t we all the wild child at some point in our lives?  Didn’t we all go through a miraculous and supernatural change when we received the love of our Heavenly Father through prayer?

This boy is indeed a different person now.  He still has his struggles and always will.  But the change is permanent.  His self-control is better.  His manners, improved.  His attitude, positive.

But most importantly, his heart is softened.  He feels the love that is extended to him.  From his papí on earth and in heaven.  We can’t wait to see what God has in store for this little guy.  To be a part of his life and his story is something special.  From wild to mild.  Glory to God.